I haven’t talked to anyone on earth in a while now. After you’ve been gone for some time, people let you go. The ache for you subsides and they accept that you’ve moved on, and they move on, too.
And we do move on. There is a lot to do here, and even though it’s a world closely connected to the one we leave when we die, it’s also its own world. Some parts are like a festival and others are very peaceful. What you see depends on what you need at the time. It’s the same thing on earth, actually. It’s just that sometimes what you yearn for isn’t what you need. Sometimes what you yearn for is dangerous to you, and sometimes you end up here, to learn to yearn for the things that are healthy for you and help you feed yourself what you really do need. There is a lot of help here for that. We don’t leave all our issues behind when we pass on, so we have guides to lead us the right way. It’s like rehab in a way: you have healthier people around you trying to guide you the way you need to go and steer you away from the stuff that is bad for you. I was in shock when I died and it took some time for me to get into what had happened and where I was. It’s not easy to surrender to anything, and being here takes a certain amount of surrender, if you aren’t ready to be here yet… also like rehab. But there are a lot of ways to heal here and I have learned to take advantage of them, instead of resisting, like I used to. Things get better little by little, but they do get better.
You don’t have to wait until you get here for things to get better, though. You have the same help and the same love around you on earth, you just have to let yourself be open to it, and it will come to you.
The recognition of River's talent and maturity of spirit went as far back as "Stand By Me," which he filmed when he was 15. The shock from his death at age 23 was deep. He was expected to have a very long and distinguished career and then, like so many gifted people, was suddenly gone.
